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Camo, Such is the curse of youth. It is a matter of unproven worth. Now hold on I didnt call you worthless, but unproven. Parents and those of proven worth have been doing this since the dawn of time. Think of it as a self assessment of ones deeds in life.
Can you support yourself with no other means then what you generate or do you still live with your parents.
Have you pulled yourself up from your bootstraps and made something with your breif life as of yet?
What have you accomplished?
I know of a guy that is about 45 and a perpetual teenager. The highest job the guy has ever held was janator, he sponged off his parents till they threw him out at 25 then he made the couch rotation of his friends. Now he sponges off his current wife. He does not pay child support on the kids he has with his exwife and is basically a lying piece of trash. This man is of proven unworth.
Now I know someone else that has been taking care of them self since 17, Sure he has made mistakes in the past but they only made him stronger, everything he has done and ammassed has been by his own two hands with no outside assistance, not because it wasent wanted but because it wasent available. Now he is in his 30's, Is happily married although that marridge has taken some work, adopted a really screwed up kid so that the boy had a chance in life, and goes out of his way to help others when they need it most.
So like modi said
Dont sweat what other people think as it will just drive you crazy, instead do what you know is right. If needed you may need to make a change of friends, the good news is that every 7 years people cycle out all their old friends and cycle in new ones so probally some of those are due to get the axe.
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Posted 18 August 2009 - 07:44 AM
First off. White space is your friend. Your rant was hard to read since it was a huge block of text.
Second, you left a lot out of what you were whinging about. It seemed like an emo party and I could just picture someone wearing black eye liner and listening the sound of babies crying set to some crap like Bright Eyes.
Third, why do you care what other people think? Why do you let what they think affect you? Fuck 'em if they think poorly of you. Do you think highly of them? Are you trying to get in their pants? Once you stop giving a shit what other people think and act the way you want to act then you'll be free. You won't be doing things for others, but you'll be doing them for yourself.
That's not to say you shouldn't go out of your way to help someone if they need it, but you shouldn't feel obligated to do it. You shouldn't feel the need to be validated by others. Worrying about what others think about you has a really negative impact on your self-esteem. You're always wondering if you're good enough for them to be your friend or if they like you. When you stop caring and just be yourself then you'll start to improve your self-esteem.
In summary, stop giving a fuck what others think and you'll be happier for it.
Second, you left a lot out of what you were whinging about. It seemed like an emo party and I could just picture someone wearing black eye liner and listening the sound of babies crying set to some crap like Bright Eyes.
Third, why do you care what other people think? Why do you let what they think affect you? Fuck 'em if they think poorly of you. Do you think highly of them? Are you trying to get in their pants? Once you stop giving a shit what other people think and act the way you want to act then you'll be free. You won't be doing things for others, but you'll be doing them for yourself.
That's not to say you shouldn't go out of your way to help someone if they need it, but you shouldn't feel obligated to do it. You shouldn't feel the need to be validated by others. Worrying about what others think about you has a really negative impact on your self-esteem. You're always wondering if you're good enough for them to be your friend or if they like you. When you stop caring and just be yourself then you'll start to improve your self-esteem.
In summary, stop giving a fuck what others think and you'll be happier for it.
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Posted 18 August 2009 - 07:48 AM
i think you can blame most of your problems on the fact that you are 19 and have not yet learned the wonder of paragraph formatting.
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Re: I don't understand...
Posted 18 August 2009 - 07:52 AM
supersloth, on 18 Aug, 2009 - 07:48 AM, said:
i think you can blame most of your problems on the fact that you are 19 and have not yet learned the wonder of paragraph formatting.
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Posted 18 August 2009 - 07:58 AM
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Re: I don't understand...
Posted 18 August 2009 - 12:35 PM
CamoDeveloper, on 17 Aug, 2009 - 08:55 PM, said:
Why does it seem like no matter how hard I try, nothing seems to go the way I want? I stress myself out over how I'm going to get things accomplished but just because I don't show it doesn't mean I don't care or don't think about it. Things impact me harder than most people realize, but everything gets overlooked except for the way I react. I don't react like most people, I hold it in and deal with internally, even if it kills me. But all of that is overlooked and gets put down to "He just doesn't know" or "He is just too young to understand". But I do, I do understand, why does my age have to be the deciding factor of this and not my mental capabilities? I know what I want out of life, and I'm going to get it, but it doesn't help when the people around you are unknowingly putting you down because of your age. I know I'm just a 19 year old, but that doesn't have to be the limit. I know I make stupid decisions but it's because in my mind I have a mini panic attack and my brain goes into that instinctive 19 year mode. Also, why does it have to be so dramatic when I make a mistake or a stupid decision? Everyone does throughout their life, but they hardly get noticed, yet mine gets blown out of proportion. People keep telling me that I need to open up, but they just don't realize that every time I do open up I get hurt so bad, so deep it hits the core and destroys me. I try so hard, as hard as I can, to make everyone happy around me even though I'm hurting inside. But that isn't even good enough, I'm always the one to blame no matter how nice, or calm I am toward someone and often called an asshole. I try to be what everyone wants me to be or do the things they want me to do, but it's exhausting, I'm literally exhausted each and every day because I try to look my best in everyone's eyes. This is the reason why I can't talk or open up with my parents, I feel like I let them down or am not good enough for them. When I do try to talk to them about something, it always goes from me telling them what happened or what is going on to them putting words in my mouth and I can't deny it or I'm lying. I'm told I hear only what I want to hear, but that isn't true, I think it's the other way around. It's always dwelling in the past for them, not what is happening now. It's always harping on things things that I could of done, or should of done, not what I did do and help me work through that. They base their entire conversation on my actions in the past, not the present. I'm told I am clearly not capable of doing this or that, or that I wasn't planning on doing something since I wasn't/didn't do it back then. I try fighting it, but it seems like their eyes and ears are closed to anything else and it's all a lie. When we do end up in a conversation, I tend not to say anything because I just want it to be over with. I get tired of it so I tend not to talk to them about personal things but yet again, I'm the bad person for not talking to them. It hurts, it really does hurt not being able to talk to my parents, but it doesn't hurt as much as when the conversation is over...
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Posted 18 August 2009 - 12:37 PM
ahhhhhhh it's spreading to other pages now. KILL IT. KILL IT.
SHOOOOOOOOT HHEEEEERRRRRRR
SHOOOOOOOOT HHEEEEERRRRRRR
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Re: I don't understand...
Posted 18 August 2009 - 12:42 PM
Nikhil_07n, on 18 Aug, 2009 - 06:35 AM, said:
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sometimes you should have a "fuck it" attitude.
This always works.
the only way dude
supersloth, on 18 Aug, 2009 - 11:37 AM, said:
ahhhhhhh it's spreading to other pages now. KILL IT. KILL IT.
SHOOOOOOOOT HHEEEEERRRRRRR
SHOOOOOOOOT HHEEEEERRRRRRR
with your help too sloth. you just posted instead of just letting it die.
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Re: I don't understand...
Posted 18 August 2009 - 12:44 PM
how is it with my help? did you read what i said? that it spread to other pages. you are really really bad at this.
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Posted 18 August 2009 - 12:47 PM
supersloth, on 18 Aug, 2009 - 11:44 AM, said:
how is it with my help? did you read what i said? that it spread to other pages. you are really really bad at this.
good point, but now you can't say that because now you really would be helping it to move to other pages.
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Posted 18 August 2009 - 12:57 PM
the only way I would have anything do with it, is if I quoted the post, you fucking moron.
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Posted 18 August 2009 - 01:01 PM
and a jurassic park joke no less. these sins would be punishable by death in lesser countries.
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Re: I don't understand...
Posted 18 August 2009 - 01:06 PM
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I try to be what everyone wants me to be or do the things they want me to do, but it's exhausting, I'm literally exhausted each and every day because I try to look my best in everyone's eyes.
Dude dont do that. I dont know what other thinks by i think ppl should be what they are not some one else. And you will never be able to be some one else. + why you want to look your best in every one`s eyes ?
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