[baavgai]

Gentlemen, if you don't like someone's posts, or style, don't read them. It's horribly crass to personally attack them.

Gregarious programmer is kind of a oxymoron, maybe you're threatened?

In any case, please stick to criticizing the content, not the content provider. Crap, you guys are admin, why the hell am I telling you this.

[Jaalenn]

Dear God... Here is a question, not just for the ladies, but for everyone...

Why do you really care what people think???

For me, I used to until I realized that only my opinion of myself mattered, from there I gained more confidence, and usually ended up with at least two phone numbers at the end of the day.

If you can just be true to yourself then it doesn't matter what assholes think of you. (Trust me, I'm an asshole!!)

So please, why does anyone care what another person thinks of them?????

[Amadeus]

Andora, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 02:32 AM, said:

yey! You reopened it.

You'll find that user closed posts do not tend to stay closed for long. Many close threads in the heat of the moment, but open them back up once they've had a chance to think about it.

Moderator closed posts stay closed, with rare exceptions.

Must have been quick...I never even saw this closed.

[xerxes333]

Wow, this thread went ALL over the place. I try to get some work done on my projects ONE night and this is what happens?! lol

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Xerxes, these are valid questions, but I'm afraid not compliant to a PG 13 content. Would it be possible for you to PM those questions to absynthe instead? - Amadeus
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Thanks for cleaning it up Amadeus. It's not that important, I have received answers numerous times over from many women. I was just trying to get the post back on topic.
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This post has been edited by xerxes333: 19 November 2008 - 07:49 AM

[red_4900]

baavgai's right. Criticize the content, not the post provider.

Now, just for the sake of asking,

What can you do if you have zero common interest between you and your partner? What can you do to make your relationship grow stronger?

[supersloth]

absynthe, on 18 Nov, 2008 - 11:31 PM, said:

supersloth, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 01:01 AM, said:

i've got a serious question:

could you honestly go for a full month with no pics of yourself on this website, nothing in your profile, avatar, signature, or posts. could you survive on your personality alone?

could you honestly one up it and stop pretending like you're gonna blow everyone on here so they like you? could your personality without e-flirting be enough to sustain you on this forum?

Yeah, I'll make you a deal and do that when you go a month without being a total ass to everyone. You do that and I'll take it off.

you could have just said "no, i can't do it", that would have been fine.

i guess closing it was more about the attention. i wish only mods could close threads again.

[Kingbradley6]

What's the best advice you can give to a guy who is really shy and finds it seriously hard talking to girls, even ones that are his friends...

I mean like I find it really hard just saying hello to these girls despite them being my friends - and despite me being able to talk to them online! Just not in real life...

(Yeah, er don't call me sad for being this shy - it's just who I am by nature)

[OliveOyl3471]

supersloth, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 09:42 AM, said:

i guess closing it was more about the attention. i wish only mods could close threads again.

I wasn't planning on replying any more in this thread, at least not with a serious response, but you should know this.
If you are referring to the first few posts, when Absynthe said she was closing the thread, and then reopened it, that was MY fault. I asked her to reopen it, because it seemed like it might be fun. So don't take that out on her. Blame me instead. However, if it was closed and reopened again after that, I had nothing to do with it.

Another thing, Sloth, I do not agree that you are an a** to everyone. You're just direct. And you tell it like it is (or how you see it anyway). There's nothing wrong with that. At least with you, there's no question where you stand. Nobody has to wonder, what does Sloth really think? That's quite nice.

Ok I'm done now. Have fun.

[fooboo]

red_4900, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 01:00 PM, said:

What can you do if you have zero common interest between you and your partner? What can you do to make your relationship grow stronger?

New partners? Don't try a puppy or a baby...bad idea.

Kingbradley6, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 03:23 PM, said:

What's the best advice you can give to a guy who is really shy and finds it seriously hard talking to girls...

Just say to yourself "What's the worst that could happen?" They can say no or go away...that's it...they wont eat you or strip you naked and beat you in front of everyone so there is no big loss...and they might just say hi how are you...

[Nykc]

People receive replies based on their actions, and 9/10 times the response is not what the O.P. intended for. This is a forum, not a social networking/meetup site. Really it is not...

The lounge is a place for people to come to get away from the IDE for a little bit and unwind, chat with people who share a common interest.

I agree with sloth about posting all the pics. We all seen you already, this isn't MySpace and most of us here aren't looking... This isn't that place. We like to joke around and have fun.

IMHO enough is enough with the attention whoring already. We know you can be intelligent - lets see that side again...

Just my $0.02

[capty99]

I'm sorry... are we making executive decisions on the lounge without my input?

My input is ....

Wil Muschamp Levitating.

[supersloth]

Kingbradley6, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 08:23 AM, said:

What's the best advice you can give to a guy who is really shy and finds it seriously hard talking to girls, even ones that are his friends...

I mean like I find it really hard just saying hello to these girls despite them being my friends - and despite me being able to talk to them online! Just not in real life...

(Yeah, er don't call me sad for being this shy - it's just who I am by nature)

you just have to do it. i'm naturally the exact same way, sometimes you just gotta go out there and say 'hi'. sometimes it won't work, like at all, and it'll be a real downer. other times it will and that'll feel great. but there's no magic combo or secret, sometimes you just gotta do it.

OliveOyl3471, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 08:42 AM, said:

*snip*

1. it was another time, last night after she called me and no2 cunts she locked the thread. it wasn't aimed at you
2. thanks.

Nykc, on 19 Nov, 2008 - 08:49 AM, said:

*snip*

BINGO. *hi-5*

[samf]

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What's the best advice you can give to a guy who is really shy and finds it seriously hard talking to girls, even ones that are his friends...

My advice is you just got to suck it up and approach and engage in conversation. Just say 'hi' and look at them and smile not at the floor, offer them a drink (depending on surroundings). Try and act confident, even if you don’t feel confident. Girls like that from what I have learnt but don’t try and be over confident to the point it makes you look like a mug. Also just talk about things generally especially if you don’t know them well or at all. Worst thing you can do is try an in depth conversation, keep it loose. Talk about films, music, books try and find a general connection in something you both enjoy and go from there. Confidence will come just cant be shy'ing away from people..

This advice is from a guy so it could become void my 2$ anyway.

This post has been edited by samf: 19 November 2008 - 10:36 AM

[fooboo]

In short "cowboy up"

[KYA]

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"I wish I knew how to quit you Caffeine Lounge"